By Peter Nicolai Gudme
"Children shouldn't be responsible for anything else besides being children." – Kristoffer Kiørboe
"Son" is a short film about August, a 13-year-old boy, whose father gives him a puppy. August's parents are divorced and the wounds from the breakup are still fresh, especially for August's mother who won't let him keep the puppy. For August, his father's gift morphs into something more than a fuzzy pet. It becomes a complex and conflicted package of guilt, anger, divided loyalties and affection, bringing out the emotions that are already weighing down a heavy situation.
"The film is a snapshot of a crucial phase in August's life. His mother is so unhappy and humiliated after the divorce that she can't see beyond her own grief, and August is asked to carry an emotional responsibility that he is way too young to handle," director Kristoffer Kiørboe says.
"Children shouldn't be responsible for anything else besides being children. Parents get back what they give, for good and ill."
Loss of Innocence
Kiørboe, who grew up with his mother and brother, didn't meet his father until he was 21.
"Our mother managed her emotional life remarkably better than August's mother does, but I certainly recognise the feeling of being responsible for your mother's well-being. I guess I was also subconsciously trying to take on the role of 'man of the house' to some extent," the director says.
He does not intend for his film to moralise or make August a victim. He simply wants to depict the letdown and emotional quandaries that follow in the wake of a divorce and that hit children hard.
"August is caught in an emotional conflict that he's too young to work out. It hurts to see his mother grieve and feel responsible for that. At the same time, August loves the little puppy every bit as much as he misses his dad. Over the course of the film, we witness the consequences and the loss of innocence as August encounters the harsh realities of adult life."
Dare To Be Honest
"Son" is a character-driven story and the believability of the character August is essential. August is played by Stefan Søe Iwan, a previously untested 13-year-old.
"He has a terrific expression, full of emotion," Kiørboe says, adding that it takes a special combination of security, praise and persuasion to direct a young kid.
"You can't push too hard from day one on set. It's no good if he's burned out on day three. But you sometimes have to go 'Come on, this is it!'"
"You've got to stay on your toes and dare to be honest – gentle, but honest. The actors can't do anything wrong. Only I, the director, can make mistakes. If a scene goes wrong, it's because I didn't do my job right. I get what I give. It's just like being a parent," Kiørboe says.
Kiørboe is a graduate of the documentary programme at the National Film School of Denmark, but even back in school he was moving more towards fiction. Now his documentary background and experience working with real people is evident in his desire to layer more credibility and realism into a fictional framework.
"As I see it, there can be a conflict between how people behave in real life and how it's portrayed in film. Films often show the big emotions, the extremes, in interpreting a character. But this explicitness can run counter to reality, because we're self-conscious and generally try to hide our emotions to avoid confrontation and conflict."
Kiørboe talks about feelings a lot, but he's fascinated by stories about people who are not so good at expressing them.
"Son", screening in the Berlinale's Generation 14plus competition, is produced by Nina Helveg for Frame By Frame with support from the DFI Film Workshop.